How do you experience transvestism?

[Berty]

Hi girls:

First of all, I'm sorry to seem a bit heavy-handed for opening two posts almost in a row, but I've been excited since I found you.

Personally, it is something that for many years only I knew and did not share with anyone, but since my partner discovered it, the world has opened up before my eyes and every day I want Berty to come more to light.

My partner supports me a lot, but I have a hard time accepting that I should share it with the people I love, so I limit myself to staying at home (something that frustrates me more and more every day)

How do you live your transvestism?

A kiss, beauties

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[Enfemme]

We all go through a similar situation.

Having the support of your partner is wonderful, don't just stay at home and go out and explore to feel less frustrated.

 

[Berta]

Hello Berty, I don't think there is a "correct" answer that applies to everyone. Each person experiences things in their own way, with experiences and a way of expressing themselves that is in line with their personal circumstances. That doesn't mean that we don't have many similarities.

Now I'm talking about myself. Since I was a child I liked almost everything feminine. Since I was able to start shopping I have always had "little treasures." Shoes may be the star product for many people, but for me there are other items of clothing that have more feminine value. Like you, I had a partner for many years who knew about my feminine side. Without realizing it, I took up a large part of a closet and the whole sofa was full of shoes. On the one hand it is support, but if it is not well managed it can damage the relationship. After all, you want to express yourself as a woman and you live with one.

I repeat, I'm talking about myself, the greatest emotional release, which in our case is a lot, a mixture of emotions and feelings, is going out and feeling like a woman. It changes to everyday life, it's more relaxed, I'm at home like Berta, with tights and ballet flats, but it's "indoors", you're comfortable, you feel feminine, just for yourself.

The family and loved ones thing is a thorny issue. Little by little, society is changing, it accepts us and something important, we accept ourselves, people have become more open and we can share our intimacies more easily. I am not the one to say how to act when most of my loved ones don't know about Berta. With the people who do know, I share a lot. It's a great way to escape being able to speak freely. I can tell you that I have gone shopping with my sister like two girls, looking at dresses, bags, stockings. It's a joy, it fills your heart with joy.

I hope I succeed and don't confuse you.

[Berty]

Thank you very much for your answers. Together we are unstoppable.

[Goizeder]

Hello everyone,

I experience crossdressing as a form of liberation. It is a way of expressing my feminine side, which until now I have kept quite repressed.

However, I have realized that I cannot continue denying a part of me and that I have to bring out the woman inside me.

It is also a way for me to relax and forget about my problems and worries.

Kisses

Goizeder

[Berta]

Goizeder, you have taken a very important step, accepting yourself as a person with your duality. I am very happy.

Enjoy all those moments.

Kisses.

[Goizeder]

Bertha!

Thanks again for your help. You are a sweetheart of a girl. I hope you do well in life.

Kisses.

Goizeder.

[Guio]

Hello. I don't know if I can help you. I live at 50% approx. At home and on the street. I go to work in person as a boy. The teleworking part as a girl. And then on weekends; on Fridays I go out as a boy and on Saturdays as a girl. So, more or less, I share things out.

[Lora]

Hello everyone.

I have just taken a step forward in self-acceptance. It's a long story that I'm not going to go into, but essentially the most important people in my life, those who have shaped my personality and my identity, have always been women. My best friends, the most influential people at a family level, my professional role models. I have always been much more connected to them than to men. I have spent many years of my adult life, possibly more than a decade, making photo montages and putting my face on women's bodies, secretly. With new computer tools, it has become easier and easier for me. A few years ago I discovered FaceApp and I went crazy and took millions of photos. I know they are fake; but I love them. I am writing a novel, and I couldn't think twice about how connected I feel to its main character, of course, a woman. This Christmas, I'm not sure with what excuse, I ended up waxing my chest. It was an act of liberation, I felt as if I had exorcised Santiago Segura from my body. I told my wife that I liked it and she liked it too, but I didn't tell her why I did it. Shortly after, I bought nail polish and painted my toenails. It smelled too much and I thought she was going to catch me. She didn't, but the feeling of hiding something got to me, and I ended up telling her. She accepted it, although the day we spoke it had a big impact on her. I'm going little by little, both with her and with myself. I've shaved all my hair, except for my arms because she asked me to leave them. When I buy a skirt, she reacts naturally and curiously: she asks me to try it on, encourages me to wear it at home, makes some well-intentioned jokes. She's even encouraged me to get laser hair removal. I've bought some beautiful shoes, but, as I tell you, I want to go little by little: she hasn't seen them yet. I put on makeup (horribly badly, it must be said) but when she's out.

I am still in the phase of self-acceptance and discovery. Finding you has given me a lot of encouragement. I found a page that described transvestism as a paraphilia on par with… well, you get the idea. And it left me feeling very disappointed. Reading you and having you here makes me feel a little less alone. I am still unsure, looking for answers, reading and listening.

A hug and thanks for being there.

[Julia]

As I mentioned in another post, I'm trying to connect with my feminine energy and find precious moments when I can. For example, I'm lucky enough to work from home, so I usually wear leggings and comfortable clothes while I work. I also train at home; I have an elliptical machine and I push it quite hard, as well as some strength training (squats, etc.). And some weekends when the kids aren't home, my wife and I stay home, have dinner, and watch a movie. Then I wear a dress or something more comfortable. I'm taking little steps.

Here's a photo after training yesterday, when I debuted some new leggings.

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